my boyfriends parents are very religious and think it is wrong of me to live with their son. We are both adults in college and financially it would be best for both of us. It is a good location right next to the college and it is cheap to live there. We can also have our 3 pets (no other affordable apartments allow pets in this town!) I don't see what the problem is.
Isn't this idea of no living together outdated? Maybe 2000 years ago there were reasons why it was bad but times change. Why do people still think it's so evil to live with your b/f or g/f?
Why is it wrong to live with your boyfriend or girlfriend?
I wouldn't say that the idea is outdated in a static and chronological fashion. Social maturity advances and regresses in cycles. Sophistication and enlightenment tend towards cumulative improvement in a society, but the gears of progress do slow down and grind to a halt at times; sometimes they even send a society on a (fortunately) temporary but nevertheless disturbing backwards roll into a sorrier state.
So, to answer your question, I would say that if you have matured and wisened to a point that allows you to analyze your moral behaviour in a more objective and logical manner (and you by all accounts seem to've reached that point), then it would be perfectly accurate to say that social conventions opposing cohabitation, though they are not outdated per se, are certainly outdated for *you*.
Put a better way: opposition to two people living together, the idea itself, hasn't changed at all; rather, the idea is outdated because you *yourself* have *outgrown* it.
Why is it wrong to live with your boyfriend or girlfriend?
I live with my g/f...so what
Why is it wrong to live with your boyfriend or girlfriend?
I think its perfectly acceptable as long as the two people are consenting adults.
Why is it wrong to live with your boyfriend or girlfriend?
There is nothing wrong with it. Tell him to tell his parents to go eff themselves.
Why is it wrong to live with your boyfriend or girlfriend?
well, overly religious people don't think that couples should live together or have sex before marriage. in my opinion, there's nothing wrong with living with your bf or gf. I actually think it's good because once two people start living under the same roof, their "true selves" are revealed. so i think it's best to at least attempt to live together before marriage to see if it'll really work out.
Why is it wrong to live with your boyfriend or girlfriend?
Nope. And if they don't agree with living together out of wedlock, they don't have to do it. Hopefully your boyfriend stands up to his parents and does what is best for you and not them. If he doesn't, then he ain't worth dating.
Why is it wrong to live with your boyfriend or girlfriend?
The bible calls sex before marriage "fornication" and it is forbidden by God. That's why they are against it.
I lived with my husband before we were married, too, even though I was a devout Christian because he couldn't afford a place of his own and I allowed him to live with me to help him out. We didn't have sex either because I wouldn't. My pastor at the time condemned me for living with him but I told him it was only plutonic but I don't think he believed me. But I felt it was the right thing to do and I maintained my morals. No one can judge you. That's between you, your bf and God.
Why is it wrong to live with your boyfriend or girlfriend?
It isn't evil. His parents are behind the times. Ignore them. My mother is the same way...I don't listen to her really. Just explain to them its best for the both of you and if they don't like it there is nothing they can do with it. You are both adults and able to make your own decisions.
Why is it wrong to live with your boyfriend or girlfriend?
i didn't live with my bf before marriage not only for my christian views but for legal views also. i was still trying to build my own credit and my career. i wanted to be very independent. but if my bf's parents didn't like the idea, i would still have to respect his parents. wouldn't want any bad blood between us.
if you break up...think about the legal issues you two can get into because you own an apartment together. pets and all.
Why is it wrong to live with your boyfriend or girlfriend?
because you might get a disease
Why is it wrong to live with your boyfriend or girlfriend?
amen, sister.... Your boyfriend's parents have no direction in your lives, it all about you two. You two make your OWN choices on what the two of you do together. Its not like his parents have power over their ADULT SON! They need to stop their whining...
I just have a bit of a problem with over-religious people..... heh, this one time I told a priest that there was no such thing as.... never mind......... :P
Why is it wrong to live with your boyfriend or girlfriend?
it is not wrong to live together. it might be hard, you guys might break up because of it eventually. but is it wrong? no.
if you and him both agree that it is what you want to do, then screw his parents. this is your life, not theirs. you both are adults, you are old enough now to make your own decisions. good luck and have fun with each other, i hope it works out for you guys!!
Why is it wrong to live with your boyfriend or girlfriend?
Its because you can't have sex until marriage. Obviously if you live together u gonna have sex. Well... I live with my bf too.
My mom lived with my dad before they got married... and they are still married now (30 years i think). She is a christian but she is okay with us living together.. even tho its wrong in God's eyes. when i took us to couple counseling at a church he said that divorce rate in my city was like ohh.. 72% and that if we want God to make it work we have to:
1. Not live together
2. Get in church
God won't make a rocky relationship work because you are sinning (having sex before marriage) and asking him a favor at he same time. even if i did move we will prob still sleep with eahc other u know. So i decided not to move. I just hope that he decides to get in church but he has little interest.
And he invited me to live with him in the apt so if we break up its all on him now.. whatever the legal issues are.
Why is it wrong to live with your boyfriend or girlfriend?
While living together isn't really a bad thing, it does a few things. The Bible teaches to avoid appearing evil. Well, with you two living together people will assume things, and that will tarnish your character with them. Also, there is a serious temption risk there to give into the flesh like you wouldn't believe.. that is why his parents think that its wrong.
Why is it wrong to live with your boyfriend or girlfriend?
Well in general, if you are living together, you are sharing a bed and doing - oh my god it is just to horrible to say it - and out of wed lock. You will be DAMNED TO HELL! God religion is funny. What does he think about it? Is he as religious as they are? Yes it is outdated, and unnecessary. Come on people, wake up and smell the humus.
Why is it wrong to live with your boyfriend or girlfriend?
I'm Christian and I do not believe that it is wrong. It is only wrong, in my opinion, if you are having sex before getting married.
I guess they do not want you two to live together because of how it will look.
Why is it wrong to live with your boyfriend or girlfriend?
every church and its deciples will tell you that it is disrespectful to the institution of marriage to simply live together without the benifit of marriage. if you feel so strongly about this young man, you should marry him and save on the rent with your husband. if you dont feel this measure of commitment or he doesnt feel it, the both of you should save on the rent with the same sex. dont let money pervent you from gaining a spot in our Heavenly Fathers house. the time you spend in a house with a boyfriend is like a grain of sand on the beach. the time you spend in our Heavenly Fathers house is without end.
Why is it wrong to live with your boyfriend or girlfriend?
It's not wrong. It's just against some dogma. Don't worry about it. It's between you and him and his parents can stay out of it.
Why is it wrong to live with your boyfriend or girlfriend?
No it is not outdated to believe this way, the time period you are speaking of is an era where people actually had morals. Pre-marital sex is a sin, that is why his parents are against it. So many people believe since this is a new age everybody else is doing it, that makes the situation okay. You were not looking for a true response you were looking for people to agree with what you are doing. I for one rather stay with the ole school gang and keep my stuff to my self until I am married.
Why is it wrong to live with your boyfriend or girlfriend?
Why are you pushing the envelope when you know within your heart or conscience it is wrong! God told us if we are to be approved by Him we must be holy as He is holy.
The wide road is full with people who have gone their own way, but in the end it leads to death. But the narrow gate few find as it is too nice to hang around with similar kinds of people. Your boyfriend parents are speaking the truth, why don't you listen to them? Rebelliousness is like witchcraft in God eyes, so why not walk a different way than on the wide road?
Why is it wrong to live with your boyfriend or girlfriend?
Parents will always try to look out for their children and for the most part they try to bring them up to believe what they feel is right. My pre-marriage councellor told me that couples who live together before marriage are 60% more likely to divorce than if they hadn't. I did it. I think I know what she's talking about now. When you live together as gf/bf and the going gets tough, you can always pack your bags and leave. That's the end of it. It's that easy. This kind of mind-set is dangerous. Once you're married it is not that easy. It has to be a serious decision involving lawyers and such. Getting into that mind-set is like telling your sub-conscience that you are giving seperation/divorce an option. Don't know if that came out right...
Why is it wrong to live with your boyfriend or girlfriend?
The idea of living together is wrong in the eyes of God. God said if a man lays with a woman so shall he marry her. There was a reason for this and so many people today have started just living together and not thinking about the reason they should be married.
If you live together then either one of you can leave the other any time. There is no committment to the relationship at all. You give yourself to him and him to you in your love making and then he walks out the door because after all he can. He can go down the street and make love to any other woman he wants because you are not his wife. You have no power over him and he has none over you to stay true to one another.
To give yourself in marriage is to be as one and as long as you just live together you are still two different people with no rights to the other. And... then if you got pregnant and had a child then your child would be called a name that no child should be called.
You may think well we love each other and we will stay together but you are not together! You are just room mates in the same house committing a sin.
I would hate it if my daughter did this. It would break my heart too. If this guy really loves you then he would respect you enough to make you a honorable woman and not what he is making you into.
You will be called a kept woman by his parents and maybe a few worse words. Now do you want his parents to care about you? What if you do want to marry someday? They will be your parents then. Best think about what harm you could do to all that are concerned.
Why is it wrong to live with your boyfriend or girlfriend?
Peace.....the parents may be concerned that eventually education will be put on the back burner, you could get pregnant prior to marriage, the relationship would end and there could be a child and with or without a child have to move on to try the same thing all over again and then perhaps lose again - again - and again - this can be very painful for many reasons. They are protecting you both, not thinking you are big time sinners.....God Bless! "orthros"
Why is it wrong to live with your boyfriend or girlfriend?
Nobody has the right to judge or tell another adult how to live his/her life. As adults, you don't have to explain your choices to anyone--including your b/f's parents. His parents have a right to their beliefs, but if you two are adults, they should respect you as adults and mind their own business.
And to the person who said getting married gives you power over the other person and keeps him/her from having sex with other people, your reasoning is seriously diluted. Marriage doesn't give you power over anyone. It doesn't keep people from cheating. And it doesn't guarantee a lifelong commitment. And as far as his parents liking and respecting her after they're married, they don't have to like her, but they should respect their son by showing her respect.
Why is it wrong to live with your boyfriend or girlfriend?
Its not a good idea and here's why:
1. You're going to have a harder time hooking up with a better guy when he comes along. And he will come along.
2. Your going to get stuck doing most of the household chores. Its always been that way.
3. Your practical reasons are lame. Get some romance in your life! Pets? Affordable apartment? Good location? Jeez, you sound like a Senior on Social Security.
4. If you don't want to think of religious dictates as divine instructions, then think of them as wisdom distilled by the ancients from mistakes made over the millenia.
Why is it wrong to live with your boyfriend or girlfriend?
Traditionally, premarital sex is the sin of fornication--a less serious sin than adultery, but a sin nevertheless. Of course, if you want to live together to share expenses, keep your pets, and get used to each other's idiosyncrasies as preparation for marriage, but without having sex, why not?
Why is it wrong to live with your boyfriend or girlfriend?
I can see what your trying to say but in my religion it is completely forbidden to live with your partner before marriage and have no sexual contact whatsoever.Everyone has different beliefs so do whatever you feel is right for you and your partner!
Why is it wrong to live with your boyfriend or girlfriend?
It is better to know the person that you are planning to spend the rest of your life with before you take vows. There is wisdom in living together first.
Why is it wrong to live with your boyfriend or girlfriend?
Why are you saying that it is wrong? There will be many things in your life that someone will disagree. That is their opinion.
Example: You use electricity in your apartment? There are people that believe that is against their religion, you must decide for yourselves what is right or wrong and not worry about others..
If you both believe you want to live together, show respect to his parents and tell them you decision and they should respect your choice.
Why is it wrong to live with your boyfriend or girlfriend?
if you have to ask I could never explain..
Why is it wrong to live with your boyfriend or girlfriend?
If you're having sex outside of marriage, it IS!
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