Should I let my live in boyfriend have any say in how I disipline?

my kids?? His kids are younger %26amp; are only here on weekends, my kids are teen %26amp; pre-teen %26amp; live here. My husband %26amp; I fought alot about this and I feel it ruined us, he knows he CAN'T spank but should he tell me what to do with them or correct them, we live in his house?!? He does kinda baby his kids %26amp; doesn't make them follow the same rules as harsh as he expects mine to, because their younger %26amp; not here as often is what he says,the ages are6,9,11.%26amp;14 so there is a age gap. My daughter doesn't want to live with me though because he butts in when i correct her, but she is disrepectful to me, and him. So should I let her live with her dad? that's what she wants to do.

Should I let my live in boyfriend have any say in how I disipline?

I was in this same situation except I was the child. My stepdad lived with us for 10 years before they were married If you expect this man to be part of your life for a very long time regardless if you plan on marrying or not then yes he should have a say in how you discipline especially since the children live with both of you. If you don't respect his opinion then your children won't either. The only problem I see is that he's treating his children differently. All the kids should be treated the same regardless of whether they stay with you all the time or just on the weekends. If you treat children differently your kids will pick up on that as well. As far as your daughter is concerned. If her father is a good dad, and she's having alot of trouble coping then it's not a bad idea to let her stay with her dad if she wants to, but if you think it's just a phase she's going through don't let her go because she'll probably get over it. Most importantly don't send your daughter away just because you want to. Make sure it's a good idea for both of you. Then let her know you still love and care for her and when she's ready to come back you'll be waiting.

Should I let my live in boyfriend have any say in how I disipline?

I would never loose one of my babies over a guy. Nope. Never ever.

Should I let my live in boyfriend have any say in how I disipline?

Boy I would like to just tell you that if you earn you own money and are able to stay in a motel for the weekends you have your kids then do that. I did it with my son. I was married to a guy for six months because of this dilemma. My son lived with us full time and his did not. But when they came over he would expect me to take them shopping or out to eat. My opinion is that their mother gets child support so I did not see why we had to take them out. He did discipline my son when we were together because I would not like my son to think that he could disrespect him ever. But a divorce was just better for us because my son comes first. Good Luck.

Should I let my live in boyfriend have any say in how I disipline?

If you and your boyfriend are going to be in a long term relationship then you two need to work this out. You two need to sit down and come to agreement exactly what the rules are for the kids and what the discipline is. These rules need to be consistent and evenly applied to all the kids regardless of who's they are, how old they are, or how often they live in the house. That way no one can be upset or feel mistreated because there are set rules and punishments and there is no question about what is going to happen or one person thinking one thing and the other another way. As parents you have to be united and consistent when setting rules and disciplining your kids.

Should I let my live in boyfriend have any say in how I disipline?

Put your foot down now, no way no how do you discipline my kids. I let my hubby start that and he took over like a bull. He belittles my kid all the time, even though she's an honor student doesn't drink, smoke, do drugs. He calls her a slob and tells her she's lazy, all because her room is a pig sty, who cares it's her room I say, As long as she gets good grades and isn't hanging out on the street like most of the other kids her age, I'm happy. Yeah you should let her live with her Dad if he is reponsible and wants her there also.

Should I let my live in boyfriend have any say in how I disipline?

You guy are living together so you should agree on terms. he can give you advice on how to discipline your children and he can help you. If they get disrespectfull with him he should be able to tell them is wrong. and should be able to do the same thing with his kids when they come around. now your kids come first to you, and his kids come first to him. You guys have to talk about it and come up with an agreement. but dont argue Is just talking.

Should I let my live in boyfriend have any say in how I disipline?

Let her live with her dad. A live-in boyfriend/girlfriend shouldn't have input on how the other person is raising kids, unless of course abuse is involved.

If the situation is stressing you out too much, then get a job or a better one and move out. Maybe you could still see the guy, but I think it'd be better not to have to deal with that stress on an everyday basis.

Should I let my live in boyfriend have any say in how I disipline?

First, sit down with your boyfriend and come to an agreement as to how ALL the kids are going to be disciplined. If he can't be equal in all the discipline then you need to find a new guy that will respect your children as much as his. It is never OK for someone to treat his kids differently than your. If he loves you and your kids he will treat them the same.Your daughter is acting out because she is confused and scared. She needs to feel that she is loved and safe no matter what. She is also a teenager. She is going to act out. She is testing boundaries.

Should I let my live in boyfriend have any say in how I disipline?

You are the mother of your children, which is why you are the one to decide how to discipline them. Your boyfriend can give you advice or suggestions if he wants to, but he shouldn't interfere at any level, on the way you raise your own kids. Talk to your daughter about this whole thing, let her explain you what bothers her and try to find a way to make it better for everybody.

It is very important that you show your daughter that you care and that you want her to live in your home, that will be enormously encouraging for her to stay with you.