My husband and I differ about where to live?

My husband and I have a constant battle going on about where we are going to live in a few years when he retires. He is of retirement age (I am not). We now live in town, and we also have two small children, ages 6 and 2. We have a ranch located in another state and 34 miles from town. It takes around 45 minutes to get to town , a very small town nearby. We lived out there before when our son was very small. I hated every minute of it. I told him then I would never live out there again. Now our son is in school and soon our daughter will be in school. I do not want to spend three hours a day driving back and forth to town. I also get physically sick when I think of ever living out there again. NOW, my husband told me today he is going to start building a new home out there. I told him, I thought you understood that I was not living out there again. He said, that is fine. I could buy my own house in town (with what?) but he was living out there. There is more,,,,but no more room to tell

My husband and I differ about where to live?

I'm with you on this because of the children and the need to get them to school. However no matter how many people agree with you it isnt going to help your problem. He loves it out there and you dont. Its a little disturbing that he would prefer to live out there even if it means his family wouldnt. You 2 need marriage counseling.

My husband and I differ about where to live?

try to get him to build the house a little closer to town. don't make it just about you. the kids will be far from school, there friends, and it will give them less time to do the things that they want to do as they get older.

My husband and I differ about where to live?

Wow. I'm sorry to hear about the insensitiveness. Is there any way you can both discuss selling the land and maybe compomising a different location??? I think your kids are young enough where a move wouldn't bother them, but that's quite a distance to live from town with small children, and what about your husband? If he's retirement age, then it's possible that he'll one day need emergency medical assistance, and 45 miles would hinder that...has he thought of that? Maybe if he's still firm on moving out there, HE should be the one to take the kids to and from school every day and also make sure they get to and from sports, etc. I'm so sorry, he just seems a little selfish. Best of luck to you.

My husband and I differ about where to live?

Marriage is a partnership and partners must compromise to

make a go of the partnership...it is that simple and neither of

you seem to be willing to compromise; but are more interested in having things your own way, rather than making the marriage and the family work..

Families (and it is about your FAMILY not you, not his retirement, not travel time, not schools etc) can be raised anywhere. Families are units of people that work together in the best interests of each other and the group = not from each persons personal emotional desires....

There are no suggestions to help you, till you are both willing accept the family concept and compromise between partners as the criteria for the life you've created for yourselves.

Your problem is about attitude not situation. for both of you.

My husband and I differ about where to live?

You are in a quandry yes indeed. Sounds like hubby doesn't realize that kiddies come first.

Why don't you let him take the kids to school from now on and to their activities. He may see something he is currently missing. Like it is hard.

Can you sell the ranch and get a small home in town? Then just visit on the weekends where he is staying. Doesn't sound like much of a marriage but lots of people do it for various reasons.

If he is adament you will be the one who has to figure out your next move, even if it is divorce papers in his face.

My husband and I differ about where to live?

ok, let him build that house but tell him you and your children need him also nearby and want to spend pleasant memories as a family with him.