Live with my mother????

Should I move in with my mother????

I am currently going through a divorce. I have three kids and no job. I live in AZ and have no family here. My soon to be ex plans to stay in AZ.

My mother seems to think I should move back to SC with her. We lived together before and I was not happy and neither were the kids.

She will help financially if I go to SC till I get on my feet but if I stay in AZ she won't. I really do not want to go back to SC. But I don't want to stay in AZ either.

I have to get a car too and my soon to be ex won't help either. I have applied for jobs and have not landed anything yet. I am scared I will be out on the street with my three little ones if I can't get it together and soon.

I have no other family. My dad died 2 years ago and my mom and I have never been close.

My mom has called other family members and told them all that was going on with me. So now one of my cousins has tld the family that my soon to be ex was hitting on her when we were married.

Live with my mother????

You dont have a choice right now...do whats best for them..as soon as you get to SC...go strait to welfare office..get medicaid, food stamps, Afdc. Go look for a place and see if someone in your family can help you with a car...Hey so many other people get gov. help that dont need it...it's there..use it to ur benefit.....Noone said divorce was easy..you'll get thru it then look back on this and be grateful for whatever help you got, only because you have kids to worry about, and you can say you did do what was best for them...What an awsome mom you will be....I also have 3 kids and I KNOW it's alot...take it day at a time and it will all work out..And about your cousin, SHE just must be bored with her life to put her two sence into yours...Ignore her (or not) if she lives out there in SC, deal with her later when you get things together for yourself and your kids....WE ALL have stupid asses in each family...You have too much other **** on your mind than to listen to a girl that just wants to add more drama to your life...And if I were you I would have a long talk with your mom about telling others about YOUR personal affairs....Ask her to please keep it between you to unless told other wise from your mouth!! Keep your head up....STAY strong!!!

Live with my mother????

absolutely!!! Especially if it's for financial reasons and you have children - you almost don't have a choice. Hate to tell you, but you'll just have to suck it up - it probably won't be fun, but just put yourself on a strict schedule to save up enough money to move to where you want to. Give yourself 1 or 2 years and don't go pass your schedule b/c that's when you'll be pissed at yourself. But, you never know where life will take you - you might actually have a good time and even meet some new friends (or special someone)

Live with my mother????

My advice would be to move away from all of them,with your kids. Find a job to support yourself and make a fresh start of it??? You sound like someone who really has her head on straight and sometimes not being tied to anyone close will give you the determination to "MAKE IT" on your own.

Live with my mother????

Moving in with your mom is the best thing right now especially for your kids. So they won't be homeless and and food to eat. And yeah your mom might annoy you but she will be helping you greatly until you get back on your feet. And will be paying for everything. If you didn't have her you would be out on the streets. So you should be greatful that even though you guys aren't close that she still wants to help.

Live with my mother????

in a situation like this, "kids come first" not your personal feeling....so , he was hitting on your cousin? and you want divorce because of that? How old are you?.....your cousin should have kept her mouth shot.. She did a big time disservice to you.....the family is the cell of the society. How can we have a healthy society with so many broken cells ( check divorce ratio...its the biggest in the whole world)....just think about the consequences, think about your kids....my parents told me: before you jump off of a spring board, make sure there is enough water in the pool......and i haven't forgotten it.

Live with my mother????

I would .It sounds like you have no choice.When you get financially able to be on your own then move.Look at it this way maybe mom will help watch the children if you get a job.And allow you to earn enough money to get a car.It will be a time to get close to mom and her to get to know her grandchildren.